Monday, September 14, 2015

My View #94 - The Kicking Post

Finally Getting Rid of It

I have been thinking about this for a long time, and finally reached this conclusion: you can get rid of it, if you want to live longer. Don't get me wrong, it's nothing to do with our worldly possessions, no, I am talking about anger. It is a condition that can ruin a life, we can see or hear it, or of it, every day. Why, why, why? It is a normal feeling we all get once in a while, and we deal with it in a way, in time, and/or get over it, with reservations. Everyone has their limits of patience, and to avoid a repeat of hurt, apologize, or cut contact completely. Both work well.

Today I feel life is very fragile and in many cases short. Everybody is facing very hard decisions and many, no matter their age, do not know how to deal with anger, consequently, others are hurt or killed, or left without a confidant to talk and help them. As a child, we were taught to show respect to our elders (anyone who was older than us,) they were older and knew more, that was the way we all lived. 

One farm we visited had a Kicking Post in the big kitchen, near the back. door. I asked Mr. Anderson if it was to hold up the roof. He had a good laugh and said, "No, we don't use it anymore, all the boys are away now and I am glad we had that post. Anger in a person raises an awful lot of energy and has to be controlled, or it can be deadly. My Dad had one of these for me and my two brothers, we always ended up laughing."

"What does it do, Mr. Anderson?"

"Well, when my three boys were working the farm, quite often, too often, they got mad at each other, wanted to fight, throw things around, and be real nasty. They soon learned what that post was for. I was cross with them too, and took them into the kitchen and said, 'Now you go to it and kick and punch that post until you get rid of that anger, and don't stop until you can laugh; I'm sitting here watching you.' He kicked and punched for 34 minutes before he stopped and laughed. 'Now go out there and work,' I said. 'Thanks, Dad.' He got over his anger."

What a good lesson. It also teaches respect, the most ignored condition in the world today, I'm sorry to say. This is the result we get, trouble. Anger can be controlled if we want to try.

Not a cheerful subject, but a necessary word or two on the subject relieves my mind. There is so much anger in the world today.

Mom
October 11, 2007

This is fascinatingly sound advice from a woman who had a great deal of trouble handling anger herself. She tended to deny her anger when I was young, and avoided conflict with others, unless she was the initiator. In her last few years, as she became more and more childlike, and life became more and more difficult, many people including me, felt the sting of her anger.